Start the Conversation

Conversations about substance use do not happen once. They happen repeatedly, adjusted for age and context, and they work best when they remain calm, factual, and specific.

  • Elementary children need simple explanations. You can tell an elementary student that some medicines and drinks are only for adults, that their bodies are still growing, and that certain substances can hurt them. You can encourage them to ask before drinking anything that looks unfamiliar.


  • Middle school students need more detail. You can explain how alcohol and cannabis affect the brain, why peer pressure happens, and what to do if a friend offers them something.


  • High school students need direct conversations about expectations, including curfews, consequences, and your availability to pick them up without judgment if they find themselves in an unsafe situation. During prom and graduation season, talk with other parents to ensure everyone is modeling the same expectations. Do not rent hotel rooms for your child or allow them to stay in one without supervision. Plan chaperoned, alcohol-free gatherings as alternatives. Let your child know you are available to pick them up from any situation where others are drinking or using drugs. A code word or phrase makes it easier for them to ask for help without losing face in front of peers. Location tracking apps can also help you monitor safety without constant questioning.


If you are not sure how to start, choose one age-appropriate point and bring it up in the car, during a meal, or after a news story about substance use.

Tips for talking to your children about drugs at all ages

Modeling Responsible Use and Setting Clear Expectations

You are the main role model your child learns from. If you use alcohol, cannabis or commercial tobacco, your child notices:

  • Where you keep it
  • How often you use it
  • How you act when using it
When using:
  • Try to have another sober adult nearby
  • This person can help if a child needs care or if there is an emergency
  • These substances can slow your thinking and reaction time
  • If you are impaired, you may not be able to respond the way your child needs
Safe storage is important:
  • Keep cannabis in its original packaging
  • Store all substances in locked, labeled containers
  • Your child should clearly see that these items are not like food or everyday household products and must be handled with care.

Frequently Asked Questions About Responsible Use and Communication

Parents often worry that their own use of alcohol, cannabis, or commercial tobacco undermines their credibility. The following questions address how to use responsibly, what to say when your child asks about your behavior, and how to respond if you suspect substance use.

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